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Tuesday, May 24, 2005
Smell of Victory
I seem to blog about random things, I don't really see any method in my madness, be them controversial, though provoking, humorous but they end up just random, like this one.
So I've been living in a house with 5 girls for the last 9 months, and well they (well I hope they are) quite comfortable with me, as I am with them, but we currently had a visitor to our house for a weekend.
When I arrived back at the house, as being out all day, he told me, that the only thing they could describe me as, well that I smelt, not in a bad way, just they knew my smell.
Of course I got a little bit offended by that, but then I thought about it.
I like my smell, not my extra smells, because that’s just wrong, but my actual person smell, I have no problem with it, and well I'm thinking, if I’m suppose to be with someone for the rest of life, and well live closely, it would make life easier, if they appreciated my smell.
So yeah, I think that the woman I marry will actually like my smell, is that too much to ask?
Thoughts???? Am I making Scents? (Sorry couldn't resist)
PS. Yes Mum, I know you're reading this, and I shower everyday, clean my teeth everyday, and put on anti-perspirant everyday, so I am clean, they're just trying to find something wrong with me, which is obvious, it’s my humility ;)
April said...
Smell is plays such a huge role in relationships, and people don't realize it. Human beings are really influenced by scent....and what some would refer to as 'pheromones'. So yea, the woman you marry, if she has consented to marry you, will most definitely appreciate your 'scent', and it could very well be the first thing she notices about you. Whenever my husband goes away I sleep in his clothes, just because they smell like him. It's really therapeutic to be reminded of the smell of someone you love. It's the same way babies can detect their mother a mile away and be soothed by a blanket she has used or one of her scarves...I trick my nephews this way all the time.
http://www.macalester.edu/~psych/whathap/UBNRP/Smell/attraction.html
I've had the same thing, when I've left for trips, when I had 'special' people in my life.
also it can be opposite because there's some people where their actual smell can really put you off
but do you think you think you should get over it? or fix it?
Is smell a reason enough, not to be with someone?
I know it sounds extreme, but I honestly think that you won't even be interested in a person (romantically, I am talking about) if their smell is not somehow attractive or captivating to you. Like other things about a person, it may be something that grows on you. But I don't think you can put aside the fact that you think someone smells atrocious, and still be attracted to them. That's one of those "we should just be friends" moments.
So how bad would it be, if the reason you broke up with someone was because they smelled atrocious?
(under the impression that you didn't really smell them before you went out with them)
That would be pretty insulting huh?
I'm suggesting you wouldn't be interested in them in the first place. Part of what attracts you to someone is the way the smell. I am referring to one's natural smell.....the way one smells when one is completely clean. Breaking up with someone because they have thrown hygiene out the window would be an entirely different issue.....I guess it would be insulting....but probably an important wake-up call ;)
and i can't believe I am this engaged in a conversation about personal scent ;)
Ok, So matt you said i should start posting comments. I rarely do so what better way than to talk about people that smell.
So i grew up with 2 older brothers so i know what it is to really smell (and all additional smells they inflict upon you), but until i went to africa i would never have said a person's smell could be a bottom line of whether you are attracted to them. But there were some people (beth you know who i'm talking about!) that i could barely sit and breathe next to. In a situation like that,if you were attracted to them otherwise, how does you tell them, I like you but DUDE YOU STINK!?
hmm ps. apologies for the bad english in that last comment!
This whole smell thing is very interesting. I was out the other day and I met somebody and their smell reminded me of my grandma. It was odd because although I'd never met this person before I instantly liked them and all I'd done was smell them. Just an interesting thought.
http://cms.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-1174.html
Especially read "How to Smell a Mate" at the end of this article....interesting and mildly amusing.
That link is priceless
For those who haven't read, make sure you read the part at the bottom, as April said, labelled
How to smell a mate?
I especially liked the fact that women can smell the 'right' man, so us guys have just to keep on smelling the way we do ;)
So I've been living in a house with 5 girls for the last 9 months, and well they (well I hope they are) quite comfortable with me, as I am with them, but we currently had a visitor to our house for a weekend.
When I arrived back at the house, as being out all day, he told me, that the only thing they could describe me as, well that I smelt, not in a bad way, just they knew my smell.
Of course I got a little bit offended by that, but then I thought about it.
I like my smell, not my extra smells, because that’s just wrong, but my actual person smell, I have no problem with it, and well I'm thinking, if I’m suppose to be with someone for the rest of life, and well live closely, it would make life easier, if they appreciated my smell.
So yeah, I think that the woman I marry will actually like my smell, is that too much to ask?
Thoughts???? Am I making Scents? (Sorry couldn't resist)
PS. Yes Mum, I know you're reading this, and I shower everyday, clean my teeth everyday, and put on anti-perspirant everyday, so I am clean, they're just trying to find something wrong with me, which is obvious, it’s my humility ;)
April said...
Smell is plays such a huge role in relationships, and people don't realize it. Human beings are really influenced by scent....and what some would refer to as 'pheromones'. So yea, the woman you marry, if she has consented to marry you, will most definitely appreciate your 'scent', and it could very well be the first thing she notices about you. Whenever my husband goes away I sleep in his clothes, just because they smell like him. It's really therapeutic to be reminded of the smell of someone you love. It's the same way babies can detect their mother a mile away and be soothed by a blanket she has used or one of her scarves...I trick my nephews this way all the time.
http://www.macalester.edu/~psych/whathap/UBNRP/Smell/attraction.html
I've had the same thing, when I've left for trips, when I had 'special' people in my life.
also it can be opposite because there's some people where their actual smell can really put you off
but do you think you think you should get over it? or fix it?
Is smell a reason enough, not to be with someone?
I know it sounds extreme, but I honestly think that you won't even be interested in a person (romantically, I am talking about) if their smell is not somehow attractive or captivating to you. Like other things about a person, it may be something that grows on you. But I don't think you can put aside the fact that you think someone smells atrocious, and still be attracted to them. That's one of those "we should just be friends" moments.
So how bad would it be, if the reason you broke up with someone was because they smelled atrocious?
(under the impression that you didn't really smell them before you went out with them)
That would be pretty insulting huh?
I'm suggesting you wouldn't be interested in them in the first place. Part of what attracts you to someone is the way the smell. I am referring to one's natural smell.....the way one smells when one is completely clean. Breaking up with someone because they have thrown hygiene out the window would be an entirely different issue.....I guess it would be insulting....but probably an important wake-up call ;)
and i can't believe I am this engaged in a conversation about personal scent ;)
Ok, So matt you said i should start posting comments. I rarely do so what better way than to talk about people that smell.
So i grew up with 2 older brothers so i know what it is to really smell (and all additional smells they inflict upon you), but until i went to africa i would never have said a person's smell could be a bottom line of whether you are attracted to them. But there were some people (beth you know who i'm talking about!) that i could barely sit and breathe next to. In a situation like that,if you were attracted to them otherwise, how does you tell them, I like you but DUDE YOU STINK!?
hmm ps. apologies for the bad english in that last comment!
This whole smell thing is very interesting. I was out the other day and I met somebody and their smell reminded me of my grandma. It was odd because although I'd never met this person before I instantly liked them and all I'd done was smell them. Just an interesting thought.
http://cms.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-1174.html
Especially read "How to Smell a Mate" at the end of this article....interesting and mildly amusing.
That link is priceless
For those who haven't read, make sure you read the part at the bottom, as April said, labelled
How to smell a mate?
I especially liked the fact that women can smell the 'right' man, so us guys have just to keep on smelling the way we do ;)